Military personnel and their families face significant hardships. Border guards, in particular, discover upon arrival that previous difficulties pale in comparison. While others' pressures stem from gains and losses, border guards confront life and death, not just for themselves but for those behind them.
On patrol, border soldiers never know when falling rocks might strike or when a misstep could lead to a fall. Caution and meticulousness are paramount. Every step on patrol is fraught with danger, with threats from both enemies and the natural environment ever-present.
Patrols demand responsibility not only for oneself but also for one's family, the land underfoot, and the nation and its people.
Border and coastal guards, though a small segment of society, endure hardships that few comprehend. The struggles of their families are even less understood.
For every period of peace, there are those who bear heavy burdens. For every moment of joy, there are those who must remain vigilant. While some may indulge in pleasure, citing their youth, others are forced to confront death.
Some complain about their living conditions or their cars, while others must use their bodies as a solid barrier to protect the territory of Da Xia.
The difficulties faced by Da Xia's soldiers and their families are beyond words.
Though they live like ordinary people, their lives are anything but.
They train and stand guard from dawn till dusk, enduring hunger and cold, with no time for loved ones, missing their children's growth, all for their selfless dedication to defending the nation.
Military marriages are also not easy.
The vast majority approach marriage with seriousness, loyalty, and selfless devotion, with many military wives bearing even more within the marital bond.
Military marriages are not fundamentally different from ordinary ones, but due to the soldier's profession, any marital issues can be magnified and attract attention, such as infidelity.
In the current societal landscape, military marriages, like ordinary ones, face various conflicts, difficulties, and temptations during their duration. With the current high divorce rate and the influence of incorrect views on relationships, the normal maintenance of marriage is impacted.
Furthermore, military marriages may encounter more difficulties, conflicts, and temptations. When conflicts become irreconcilable and problems remain unresolved, marital breakdown is a natural outcome.
This is especially true when long separations and the pain of distance are involved.
After marriage, the biggest challenge for military couples is the inability of the military spouse to fully attend to family matters, particularly when the military base is far from the city. In recent years, the military's combat readiness and training tasks have become more demanding, leaving soldiers with little time for family, thus placing the burden of family responsibilities on the spouse.
Especially after the birth of children, some spouses must resign from their jobs to focus entirely on raising children and managing the household.
Generally, married life for soldiers on active duty can be harmonious. However, once a soldier transitions to civilian life and returns to the family, certain conflicts can erupt. The period of a soldier's return to civilian life is a high-risk phase for military marriages, where crises and red flags often appear.
To navigate this period smoothly, both partners in a military marriage must understand and be psychologically prepared for these challenges.
Upon returning to family and society, soldiers must learn to moderate the temper and personality developed in the military. Regardless of rank, in the family, they are a father and a husband. They must share more household duties, communicate more with their families and children, and integrate rather than dominate family life.
Family members must also gradually adapt to the soldier's readjustment to family life, accepting the change of adding another role. They should understand the potential anxiety and frustration the soldier might experience, as these are normal reactions. Offer guidance and tolerance; avoid ridicule, disdain, or escalating conflicts.
Even under normal circumstances, Mu Hanqi finds it challenging to tolerate Ye Longlin's behavior, let alone if Ye Longlin were constantly stationed away.
In short, while military marriages have unique aspects, their success ultimately depends on the joint efforts and care of both spouses. With unity, a happy and fulfilling military marriage is enviable and respected.
Of course, those who cannot bear the difficulties of military marriage should distance themselves from it, as it could cause harm to themselves or their partners.
After a long while, Ye Longlin looked at Mu Hanqi in his arms and sighed softly.
Just as he was about to speak, he realized Mu Hanqi had fallen asleep!
He carefully placed her on the bed and then walked into the courtyard. Looking at the cherry tree, his martial energy surged, and the cherry tree visibly began to blossom and bear fruit.
"Did you argue?"
Xia Mingzhong emerged from the east courtyard. Seeing Ye Longlin standing before the cherry tree, causing it to blossom and fruit in an instant, he knew they had argued.
Ye Longlin gave a wry smile. "Grandpa, it's not an argument... Xiao Qi is complaining about me, and I'm also helpless. There are things I must do; I can't attend to one without neglecting the other. Our communication has decreased recently, and she's still a bit resentful."
Xia Mingzhong reached out, plucked a cherry, and handed it to him. "This cherry tree planted by your mother is very sweet... Fortunately, you're a martial artist, or I wouldn't be able to eat fresh cherries in winter."
Cherries are not only delicious but also highly nutritious. From planting to fruiting, it typically takes 3 to 6 years. When a cherry tree starts bearing fruit, it blossoms in March and ripens in May to June. Caring for a cherry tree requires ample sunlight, consistently moist soil, and sufficient nutrients.
If he hadn't been a martial artist, he might not have lived to see the next harvest.
"You know, there are no lingering grievances between husband and wife. As the saying goes, arguments in bed are resolved at night. Be understanding. Being a military family member is not easy. Your status also dictates that you will spend less time at home, so some resentment is understandable.
When I was at my peak, giving speeches at various universities, your grandmother also held many grievances against me... There's always a balance point between family and work, and it's up to you to find it."
Ring ring—
Ye Longlin's phone rang. It was Xuan Niao calling.
"Boss, something's happened."